The Tween Girl

Do you prefer "fashion victim" or "ensembly challenged"?

An It Mommy handles her Tween with a delicate balance between teaching her everything you know, and keeping her from everything you know.  We’ve learned, from the parenting era before us (the 90’s mom), that we are not our child’s friend.  It Mommy’s run the show, not our kids.  It Mommy’s want our Tweens to fit in, be super amazing like us, at the same time establishing boundaries and innocence.  It’s a full time job raising a Tween.



Tween Style.  Let me be clear, an It Mommy does not subscribe to the school of trash.  We do not condone sluts in the making by allowing our Tween to wear booty shorts or other slut wear.  It Mommy’s understand the difference between trendy and trashy.  The line can be blurred, but that’s where our finely tuned sense of style comes in.  It Mommy’s Tweens are often the first to wear a trend, and the first to let it go when it’s played out.  It Mommy’s supply our Tween s with a well -stocked wardrobe consisting of name brand items mixed with Target and other big box store items.  An It Mommy’s job is to simultaneously teach our Tweens to distribute their interests evenly, develop a sense of value, and keep them down to earth while looking fabulous.  It Mommy’s and their Tweens are well rounded individuals.

Tween hair/makeup.  It Mommy’s teach their Tweens understated beauty and know makeup is an important tool.  Again, we’re not raising little whores, so it’s our job as an It Mommy to train them in the use of makeup.  Less is more, but none is homely.  An It Mommy’s Tween is allowed to wear gloss on a regular basis, and experiment with light touches of eye makeup.  Anything more than this and you can expect to be an It Granny in about five years.  As the Tween’s get older, introduce them gradual additions to their makeup routine.

Hair is where It Mommy’s Tweens excel above the crowd.  It Mommy’s Tweens aren’t regulars at Kids Cuts, they’ve been introduced to It Mommy’s stylist.  All over color is still unacceptable for an It Mommy Tween, however this is the time to experiment with subtle highlights and low lights and colored and feather extensions.  An It Mommy’s Tween has the latest hair cut, and the straightener and curling iron are their tools of choice.  However, because It Mommy’s are in the business of guiding our Tweens we do not condone all over head bleaching, chronic straightening (because healthy hair is a must, not fried frizzy) and are already talking them out of removing the feather extension because it was so last summer. 

Attitude.  It Mommy’s are not teaching their Tweens to be little bitches.  An It Mommy Tween knows the importance of a smile, is respectful to adults, and a leader among her peers.  It Mommy’s Tween has confidence in herself and isn’t a bully, nor does she let anyone bully her.  I mean, It Mommy Tweens are friends with everyone, no one hates her.  Duh.  Unlike our parenting predecessors, we don’t encourage dependence or self loathing.  An It Mommy’s Tween knows what she wants and how to get it.  And isn’t afraid to work for it. 

School.  Which leads us to education.  It Mommy Tweens are crazy smart, and if not naturally, they work their ass of at it.  It Mommy’s know from experience that they aren’t getting anywhere in this lifetime without an education, homework is a must, and excuses are banned.  It Mommy Tweens are not only trendy well liked beauties but they’re at the top of their class.  And aren’t afraid to say so.

It Mommy’s Tweens will have the tools to be the leaders of the free world.  They can operate any electronic device without skipping a beat, are educated, articulate, and talented.  Not to mention, have a ridiculous sense of style passed down from It Mommy herself.