The Tween Girl

Do you prefer "fashion victim" or "ensembly challenged"?

An It Mommy handles her Tween with a delicate balance between teaching her everything you know, and keeping her from everything you know.  We’ve learned, from the parenting era before us (the 90’s mom), that we are not our child’s friend.  It Mommy’s run the show, not our kids.  It Mommy’s want our Tweens to fit in, be super amazing like us, at the same time establishing boundaries and innocence.  It’s a full time job raising a Tween.

Change of a Name

Donna Martin Graduates

I changed the name of my blog.  I don't want to be too similar to the sites like Chic Mommy or Scary Mommy.  I'm not a swacker (swagger jacker).  There's so many fucking mom blogs out there, who can keep them all straight anyway.  I'm not going to change my previous postings though.  An It Mommy is no joke, that information is all legit.  I'm still an It Mommy.  But, as any It Mommy would do, she sets herself apart from the crowd and changes the name of the game.  And her blog.

A Night Out



Blackout is for the inexperienced

Every It Mommy needs a night out, whether it’s date night with the hubby or girls’ night with friends.  The night out is rare and even when it occurs you’re home by ten.  Because, let’s face it, a night out doesn’t entitle us to have the next morning off as well.  As an It Mommy, there are new rules of conduct for the night out.  You’re not in college anymore, blacking out is so over.

Navigating the Mom Clique

Don't hate

An It Mommy is often hated immediately on sight because she doesn’t look like the other Mommy’s.  The mom clique has their radar set against any woman who doesn’t look like she’s fried.  Or could steal her husband.  Show up to the soccer field in a cute outfit, makeup, and perfectly styled coif and you’re in for some cold daggers.  It’s inevitable; women are programmed to despise those who look better than they do.  Your goal as It Mommy is to navigate this situation carefully.  There’s a fine line between becoming Bitchy Mommy and Please Everyone Mommy.  It Mommy is finely tuned in the middle.  She isn’t going to let these women run the show, and she isn’t going to bend over backwards to be liked.

The Regular Cut T-shirt

Sinners.

There's nothing more unflattering on a woman than a boxy, shapeless t-shirt.  Except maybe chunky shoes.  It screams boring mom.  Women's cut t-shirts were created for a reason; because women look like frumps in regular T's. 

If you're running errands or heading to the baseball game in a regular cut, or as I like to call them "Man Cut" t-shirt you are committing a sin and doing your body a disservice.  Regardless of your size, you should never wear them.  If you're bigger and a women's cut T isn't flattering, then you just shouldn't be wearing t-shirts at all.  You have other options for casual wear, and a man cut T is not it because it just makes you look bigger.  If you can wear a t-shirt and are opting for the man cut, then you're drowning your frame away and hiding behind it's fabric.

Makeup



Makeup makes everyone look better

Ok ladies.  There's a million reasons moms find for not wearing makeup:

• not leaving the house today
• no one notices anyway
• no time
• you're "against" makeup because beauty is on the inside.

On and on, I'm sure I missed tons.  Makeup is the one tool women have that men do not have.  Well, most men.  We get to wear makeup, it's a privilege.  Whether you adopt a routine that takes two minutes or twenty minutes doesn't matter.  Makeup is there to enhance what you have, cover up what you don't want, and to make you feel beautiful.  The best advice I ever got when I had my first child was to put makeup on every day, even if you don't leave the house. 

Beauty is on the inside, but it's on the outside too.  We take care of both the inside and outside of our homes, why wouldn't we take care of the inside and outside of ourselves?